To be a gentleman..
Gentlemanly behavior is a thing you just know, like a funny joke or a great date. The alchemy of manners and style is affecting, though not entirely explainable. And while there are rules, there is no formula.
A gentleman works to give back, to make a difference, to reduce his carbon footprint for the same reason that he’ll give you cab fare when you’re over-served and then never say another word about it - it’s the right thing to do.
To be a gentleman requires balance and consistency. These are the qualities that make a man dependable, and dependability, you could argue, is what makes a man a man.
Like anything of value, this is not achieved without effort.
So ask yourself, are you a real gentleman?